Book Excerpt from Swinging from A to Z: A how-to guide from a full-swap Lifestyle couple for enhancing your relationship with recreational sex  

Bisexuality immediately doubles your chances
for a date on Saturday night.
—Rodney Dangerfield

The Catholic Church doesn’t recognize homosexuals—
that’s funny, I always can.
—Patty Rosborough

Female bisexuality is native to the Lifestyle. If you have a profile on any swing website, you’ve noticed a majority of ladies present themselves as bi, bi-curious, or at least bi-friendly—about 90% of them.

However, men advertising themselves as bi are rare. The majority of men are homophobic. Many prefer to underline their heterosexuality to exclude the slightest doubts even before they agree to meet other couples. If a gentleman openly announces his bisexuality (or even bi-curiosity), he objectively reduces his own and, therefore, his wife’s chances of matching with couples where the males are straight. The odds for him and his better half go down even if he promises to keep his distance from men and only play with women.

The Lifestyle is not free of double standards, too. The bias against men’s bisexuality proves it. As for the authors of this book, we perfectly accept men’s right to be bisexual, yet, since Larry doesn’t have any slightest interest in men, we never experimented in this area.

My own bisexuality was one of most important discoveries I’ve made in the Lifestyle. All my life before entering the swinging world, I never suspected I could be interested in other females. I am sure not a lesbian at all. Sexually, I would never prefer women to men, even the most beautiful ladies over the ugliest gentlemen!

However, girls’ play is a delight and makes any sexual experience exceptional. Besides, it amuses (and arouses) everyone around. 

Ladies involvement in bisexuality can be of a different type and of
a varying intensity:

• Pleasure of watching other women in action.
• Inspiration of bodily contacts with other girls, almost innocent waist and hips embraces, light breast touches.
• Desire of full strength whole body hugs, kisses (mouth, breast, and neck), butt squeezing.
• Explicit sexual play with stimulation of genitalia with hands, tongue (giving or receiving head), and sex toys.

Ladies, if your perceptions and feelings about some woman (not necessarily every one) are any of those, you are nothing but a bi. No matter, if you are keeping your distance bi-friendly, or fully involved bisexual, you are bi anyway because you love women. It gives you another way to increase your own pleasure, widen your sensuality, and entertain your partner.

Most of men and women get great pleasure from watching girls play. Even if Larry is somewhat tired of sex and satisfied, he will be full of enthusiasm again the minute I start playing with the other lady.

Many couples choose to begin with female-to-female foreplay before having actual full-swap fun. For their better halves, this foreplay can be active or passive; i.e., some prefer to do the actual job while others just provide their bodies with equal pleasure. Only women know what women want and appreciate most!

Girls’ play is one of the best ways to start the action. At one of our house parties we had a ladies’ show that involved seven of my bisexual girlfriends and me. We played in one naked group as four female couples using our favorite sex toys without any hesitation. We enjoyed each other while being watched by about 30-person crowd, including our husbands and boyfriends. The show was a success.

Afterward, our playroom became busy at full capacity. We heard a lot of great compliments that night. After more than two years, our friends still ask for a sequel.

Females’ bisexuality introduces one more nuance in the Lifestyle. If you intend to play with a couple, learn well in advance how bisexual or how straight this couple’s better half is. You can stay completely relaxed if the lady is bi at any level. Conversely, be warned if she is straight. You could expect some negatives to surface while you are with a straight female. Some of them are:

• A straight woman possibly will not be happy to share her partner with another woman who is, in her opinion, more attractive. Sometimes, if this is the case, she will not share at all.
• Even if she agrees to swap partners, there still could be some jealousy.
• You can only be sure everything is fine if a straight woman truly enjoys sex for the sake of it and your partner can satisfy her.

I love women, but I could easily live without girl-to-girl foreplay as long as I am positive we are free of unexpected problems and unpleasant situations. As our swinging experience suggests, it is much easier to deal with couples where the ladies are at least bi-friendly. For us, a huge plus is participating in Lifestyle activities involving bi women. I would say it is not a “Bi+” but rather “A+”!