To Blow or not to Blow
Is there such a thing as a bad bow job? Why do men like blow jobs so much? Are there any secrets on giving a blow job? In a nut shell (no pun), there is no such thing as a bad blow job, men live for blow jobs and if they could give them to themselves they would never leave home.
This article will give some secrets about blow jobs. One of the most wonderful things about the swinging lifestyle is how much we can learn about ourselves. When my husband and I started dating we had a long talk about blow jobs. The reason for the talk was that I did not give them. I remember him saying “I do not want to be shallow, but I do not want to go the rest of my life without a blow job.” That is where things changed. I took the time, followed his direction and learned to give blow jobs. They are quite fun.
Ladies, in this article I will give some tips on giving great blow jobs.
The penis is composed of spongy erectile tissue and its main function is to deposit sperm. The foreskin in the uncircumcised male covers the head of the penis. The scrotum hangs under the penis and has many blood vessels to stabilize the proper temperature and ensure healthy sperm. In order to give great blow jobs we don’t need to go into the complete medical layout of the male body, just become familiar with these two parts.
Many men like it if you get between their legs to play. This allows them to watch, touch and maneuver better. If you place yourself between the legs you can balance and get full access to the penis and the balls. Men enjoy having their balls touched and licked as well as their penis. Start by taking the penis in your hand. As you move it up and down you will feel it grow. You might enjoy the sensation of it growing in your mouth - place the penis in your mouth and just gently move it up and down in your mouth. Friction is what makes the penis get enlarged so remember to keep moving. If he is circumcised, pull back on the skin at the base of the shaft to expose the sensitive area under the foreskin. Note, some uncircumcised men are extremely sensitive, proceed with caution.
Some women have a strong gag reflex. This can make things difficult, but can be overcome. By grasping the penis shaft at the base with your hand, the length of the penis that you can insert into the mouth is much smaller, but still feels to your partner as if all of it is in your mouth. Also, if you place the penis towards to roof of your mouth he will sense that he is filling you and you do not touch the gag area in the back of your throat. Keep your mouth moist. Many women spend too much time trying to swallow saliva, let it run out, it is a good lubricant.
Bad lubricant story. During one of our ‘play sessions’ a lady was skillfully and passionately performing fellatio when her mouth began to go numb. Soon she had no feeling in it at all. It was like watching a sitcom when she started slurring her words. After a few minutes the lady was barely able to talk, let alone continue the performance. Turns out the gentleman had used one of those creams on his penis to make him last longer for the orgy. The thing in stay hard creams that works is Novocain. So you can see it also worked on his partner’s mouth. Play time is over.
Vary your technique. As you have his penis in your hand, place it in your mouth and move both your hands and your mouth up and down. Let the head of the penis go into your throat as far as you can then back out. Take just the head and suck. Not hard enough to start a Harley but enough to hold tight. If he is uncircumcised pull the fore skin back and gently suck. Another way is to take the head and hold it in your mouth, do not move your hands or head but move your tongue all around it. The area around the ridge and under the ridge is very receptive to the warm tongue. Also take his penis in your hand and squeeze tight and enter the hole on the tip with your tongue. This is extremely receptive area; it is like the tip of your clit.
Play with his penis. Better yet, make love to it. Licking it like an ice cream cone is innocent and erotic. Just move your tongue up and down the shaft and run your tongue over the top and sides. Repeat it in several areas. Lick around the top just under the head. That is a very responsive area so keep your mouth moist. The head or ‘glans’ is considered the most sensitive area for uncircumcised men while the frenulum (the area just below the head on the bottom of the penis) is especially sensitive in circumcised men. This is a good spot to focus some attention. Run your tongue on it. Remember to pull back the foreskin in order to expose this area if he is uncircumcised. Not all blow jobs require you take in the whole penis and fill your mouth.
Another area to tease is the crease where the top of the leg meets the torso. Lick that area while holding his penis and/or his balls. Move the balls around in your hand like dice. Place his balls in your mouth and make a low humming sound. Get the penis very moist, then suck air in over it, the cool air on his penis is very exciting. Place an ice cube (small) in your mouth then place him in your mouth. You can expect a jump but he will be smiling. Some ladies place mints in their mouths then let it melt while going up and down. Be careful not to use strong mints as they can cause discomfort. Also watch the sugar. If you wind up having intercourse the sugar is a great way to get a yeast infection.
I remember a time when we were in a play session with this couple and while I was giving her man a blow job she also joined in and had a mint in her mouth. It added to the refreshing smell and he really enjoyed it. I thought she was just refreshing her breath when all along she had a hidden weapon.
What about swallowing? For some women this is a reason not to give blow jobs because they don’t like the taste of cum. There is an old saying “If God was a woman cum would taste like chocolate.” Yet men find it very sensual to watch someone swallow. There are a few tricks to give the illusion of swallowing, you can be sure the porn stars do not always or continually swallow. To avoid the taste, place the penis as far back in your throat as you can. If the cum does not touch the taste buds, then there is no taste. (the taste buds on the side of the tongue are the bitter buds).I have a very sensitive gag reflex and when my husband is cumming in my mouth I go back as far as I can past the tongue and a little towards to roof of the mouth. Then while he is climaxing, swallow. Then you never have a bunch at one time and it gives him an extra squeeze.
If you do not get sufficient warning to prepare then let the cum gather in one area and swallow all at one time (like taking a shot). If the idea of swallowing is still tuff on you then let it drain back out. If you watch porn movies you will notice that many of the ladies force the cum back out. You may get the taste on your tongue for a bit. This also gives lubrication as you continue to jack him off and it is at the front of the mouth where the sweet taste buds are.
My first time getting cum all over me was an erotic eye opener for me. We were with another couple and while I was on top of my husband the other man was on his knees and I was giving him a blow job. When he was ready to cum I moved my head back and he came all over my breasts. He was excited about that and I found a new favorite thing. The heat from the cum, the excitement and the silky feeling were fantastic. Men love to watch themselves cum on ladies. So if you can not get past the swallowing let them give you a pearl necklace. I have since had 5 men cum on me at the same time. Ladies it is so awesome and great for the skin.
It is said that the bird of love is the Dove. Any man will tell you the bird of love is the Swallow!
Giving and/or receiving oral sex does not usually require condoms. If your mouth is cut free your saliva will take care of any possible germs or STD’s. But if you still want to be sure and use a condom, be sure it is thin, not flavored, lubed and it can move as you move your hands up and down.
Words of caution.
- Never brush your teeth or floss before giving a blow job. Brushing and flossing open your mouth to cuts and bleeding. If you feel you need to brush then do it at least an hour before play time, or use a mouth wash. Mouth washes are clean feeling and germ fighting.
- Some men use a stay hard cream that allows them to stay harder longer by desensitizing the penis. This is ok for hand jobs and intercourse but many of those creams have Novocain in them and the woman’s mouth can go numb. Let her know if and when you use such a cream.
- Also with the creams do not use the sweet tasting ones because they may contain sugars which can lead to yeast infections. This also goes for mints.
- Things like Chloraseptic sore throat spray, sprayed in the back of your throat can also ease the gag reflex. It numbs the area just enough.
My girl friend has a t-shirt that says “Don't grab my head; I know what I am doing.” After a little practice, you will too
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